Sexual Attraction
- We are sexual beings so it’s natural to be sexually attracted to
others. Without sex, the human race would be extinct!
Yes we are sexual beings, however we are also
thinking beings with the ability to control our emotions. As human
beings we have to consider all the consequences of our behaviors -
including sexual behaviors - before we take action.
Strong sexual feelings and curiosity are normal,
but you don’t have to act on them.
Sex is everywhere-.We
are constantly bombarded with sexual messages in the movies, TV shows,
magazine ads, and billboards. The producers of these messages are taking
advantage of our responsiveness to sexual messages to make a profit -
sex sells … movie tickets, magazines, commercials for popular TV shows
or books.
Sex scenes you see on TV or in the movies aren’t
there to teach you about STDs, unplanned pregnancies, and the real
emotional risks people take when they have sex. Most media sex scenes
are there to excite you, period. If you see enough of these scenes, you
might begin to think sex is no big deal and always safe. You might start
to think real life is like the movies. Until you find yourself dealing
with an STD, an unplanned pregnancy or real emotional pain from a failed
relationship.
Think about the messages the media is delivering
and why … and make your own decisions about what is real.
Everyone is doing it-While
it might seem like most teens are having sex this is really not true.
Studies show the majority of teens have not had sex by the time they are
17.
Of those who have chosen to be sexually active
most say that they wish they had waited longer to have sex.
When someone is bragging about having sex or
talking about “doing it”, just remember a lot of teens brag about
sex because they want to be cool or popular. Even if your friends have
“done it” you’re smart enough to make your own decisions - it’s
your life!
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Just
for guys
Score. Go for It. Be a man. Real men are
always doing it. If you aren’t having sex that means
you’re gay. Guys really get a lot of pressure about sex. A
lot of guys think it’s macho to brag about sex - bragging
about sex probably only hides their fear of being unpopular or
thought of as gay, it also trashes the reputation of the girls
they date - something that is really hard to undo. Having sex
is not the same as being a man - you can be cool, strong, good
looking and popular without having sex.
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Pressure from a boyfriend or
girlfriend-“If you love me you’ll
have sex with me.” Even if your boyfriend or girlfriend is pressuring
you to have sex you can still say no. Many teens think that if they say
no to their partner about sex they will get dumped. Be sure to let your
boyfriend or girlfriend know that you really care about them and your
relationship but you have decided to wait to have sex. Explain how the
pressure to have sex makes your feel.
Someone who really cares about you and loves you
will not pressure you to do something that makes you uncomfortable , or
that you know is not right for you. You deserve to have a boyfriend or
girlfriend who are more about you than about sex. No one has the
right to pressure you to have sex.
Adults have sex outside of
marriage, why shouldn’t I?-Just as
some adults have problems and abuse alcohol, drugs or gamble, some
adults make poor choices about sex. It is natural to be influenced by
the example of the adults in your life - however you are the one who
must live with an STD or unplanned pregnancy - make your own decisions
about what is right for you.
Condoms provide
protection from pregnancy and STDs-All
forms of birth control including condoms can fail. Almost half of all
unplanned pregnancies happened while one or both sexual partners were
using some form of birth control.
The pill, norplants and shots offer no protection
from STDs at all. Less than half of sexually active teens report using
condoms during intercourse. Teens are getting AIDs at a faster rate then
any other group in America. There are more than 40 sexually transmitted
diseases common among teens today.
The only 100% sure way to avoid pregnancy, STDs or
emotional baggage is to wait to have sex until marriage.
Just for guys:
Pregnancy is not a problem just for girls - guys who get a
girl pregnant will be financially responsible for the baby for the next
18 years.
There’s nothing better
to do-Some teens say they have
sex because they are bored or there is nothing better to do - some even
say starting a family in high school is fine - they won’t do anything
else after high school anyway.
If you have a baby as a teen there will be plenty
to do … change diapers, go to school, work to pay the bills, care for
a sick or crying baby. There won’t be time or money to do things like
go to the movies or hang out with friends.
There is plenty of time to have sex and to have a
family - right now is the time to be enjoying the freedom of the teen
years and to be planning for your future.
I was drunk or high when
I had sex-Drugs and alcohol
make it harder to say no - they change the way you think and act. Even
if you mean to say no, if you are drunk or high you may not.
I’ve already had sex-Most
teens wish they had waited to become sexually active. Some teens were
forced to have sex when they didn’t want to. Even if you have had sex
before, you can still say no to sex in the future. Now that you have
more information about the consequences of sex, you have better reasons
to wait. The fewer sexual partners you have in your life the less likely
it is that you will get an STD or get pregnant.
Do teens who have had sex still
have each other? What’s wrong with
having sex with someone you love so much? Especially when you’re sure
it will last forever? Well, most teenage relationships don’t last.
Just because their bodies were ready for sex doesn’t mean their minds
and hearts were.
Getting pregnant and
catching diseases aren’t the only way that sex can hurt you.
Contraceptives fail more often than you
probably imagine. In fact, there’s no such thing as completely “safe
sex”. But even if you’re “lucky”, premarital sex can leave
emotional scars that you’ll feel for the rest of your life.
You may have thought it
was love, but it was really just sex. When
you’re having sex with someone, it’s hard to tell you what you love
- the person or the sex. It’s easy to wind up in a relationship or
even a marriage with someone who is wrong for you. Waiting to have
sex lets you find out if it’s really someone you can love.
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