 How
Do I Handle The Pressure?
Saying no to sex can be
really hard - especially when you really care about the person you
are dating. Here are some pressure lines and some possible
responses you can use. Practice these and come up with your own,
so that in the heat of the moment you will know what to say.
Pressure Lines …
Everybody’s doing it.
You could say “ Well I’m not
everybody, I thought that was one of the things you liked about me
- and I’m not doing it.” or “A
lot of my friends aren’t doing it, we know the risks and have
decided to wait.”
What would you say?
If you love me,
you’ll have sex with me. You
could say “If you loved me you wouldn’t pressure
me.” Or “If we love each other, it’s worth the
wait.”
What would you say?
If you won’t have
sex with me, I don’t want to see you any more. You
could say “ I really like you and care about you but
that doesn’t mean I will risk my health or values.”
Or “ Obviously you aren’t interested in me, only in
having your way - if sex is all you are
interested in, I’m not interested in you.”
What would you say?
I know a really
special way to end the evening. You
could say “I’m having a really
good time to, but I’m not ready to have sex. Having sex now
would not make this night special - let’s do something else
instead.”
What would you say?
I know you really
want to do it, you are just afraid of what people will say.
You could say “ Yes, I’m
afraid of what people will say and of ruining my reputation.”
Or “No, I’m not afraid of what
people will say, I’m afraid of getting pregnant, getting a
disease and how I will feel about myself.”
We had sex once
before, so what’s the problem now. You
could say “ I know more now about STDs and my chances of having
a child. I don’t want to take those risks.”
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